#parenthood

Superman (aka, my husband) asks me “Why don’t we just move (to the Teton Valley)?!”, several times a week. I get it, the 650 is getting to him. It’s expensive, busy, and demanding…I feel it too. The hard part is, once you know there’s another way you’d prefer to live, you become less tolerant than you were before. I think since his recovery, he just has less patience (not that he had a lot to begin with) and wants to live his life without feeling confined anymore.

 

After Superman’s accident, our “village” rallied hard and lifted us up…through all the years we dealt with his health. When we told them we were vacationing in the Teton Valley, they said “where?!”, but when we told them we wanted to live there…”why?!”. Surviving and being successful in the Bay Area is hard, but if you’re doing it, it’s something to be proud of. So, to articulate you’d prefer to leave catches people off guard. The desire to live in the Teton Valley now, sooner, later, or forever is the same feeling you have when you meet your spouse…you just know. They are meant to be a part of your life and you can’t imagine your life without them. Once you know you want to spend your life somewhere, you can wait to start!

 

This brings me back to Superman’s desire to move…now.  There are two reasons we wait – Tall & Small. Tall is our #IndifferentTween daughter who is twelve and in 7th grade. Small is our #Crazy daughter who is about to be eleven and in 5th grade. They’re born and raised here and have lived in our current home (were able to purchase as renters) for 7 years. They both attend the great public schools we are fortunate to have. Tall and Small play competitive club soccer and have big goals to play in college and maybe beyond. The girls love the Teton Valley as much as we do, but we need to let them complete their journeys.

...our baby Bears
My 3 Bears…

Would the girls be ok if we left? Sure. Can Superman survive waiting? Yes. For now, we will continue to vacation to the Teton Valley. As a family, we will tackle the process of building a house. Our future is 208. After all, it is only 7 more years until Small graduates…

For now, we do what all parents do…sacrifice.  This is parenthood.

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